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Friendships and Their End

20 / 03 / 2016

When one finishes school and then moves onto another chapter of life, aka one of the most dramatic and odd things one experiences, as one would expect there is a change in friendship groups. Or put more simply, you loose contact with many people simply because you are not in the same environment, having the same school work to have discussions over. It's a bit hard to navigate at first, with never before having such a "shedding" of people in your life.

Yet what I've found, is that friendships don't have to end unless you wish them too. While you might not have a bunch of people for a month or two, you may consider some of them to still be a close friends while others you are happy to see the back of. The whole concept of constantly catching up in order to maintain the friendship is absolutely an unnecessary pressure that is too constantly over-thought. For in reality, the friendship only exists in mind-set, rather then the last time you slurped smoothies and chatted about life.

There are a couple of people that while I haven't seen for a couple of months, know that we'll hit right off upon return. This sort of knowledge is the proof that what you've got is real and isn't going anywhere unless you want it to. How you think and perceive the relationship is ultimately what it is. So if you simply want to become closer with someone, or finely catch up after yonks of time not seeing one-another, then all you have to do is believe in your relationship, rather then doubt it. Through this you'll view it in a much more positive light, rather then surrounding it in negative thought.

When in middle-school and going through a change in friendship groups, one of the biggest questions and concerns on my mind was 'how do you go about ending a friendship?. I guess from many Hollywood coming of age movies, I thought it had to be some dramatic stand off, that suddenly the whole school was aware of. However through a weird and awkward time, I learned that often the less said the better. Through simply distancing yourself and placing a mindset around the said person/group, that you are going your separate ways severs the ties adequately, and results in as little pain as possible. Often when we try to explain our going of different ways, we say things we wish we hadn't, hurt others feelings, and ultimately are left feeling crappy about ourselves. This is not the ideal friendship exit, so you don't have to try and make it.

Friendships are simply a feeling. A buzz when we're in their company. There is no signed agreement holding you accountable, just your feelings and mindset about the special someone. So cherish this about the person, and know you have the ability to switch on the relationship, or indeed off, by the power of thought. Use it for good.